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On Current Events

sexreeducated:

I have very mixed feelings about the current events with Raven Symone. No one should ever be outed and yes your orientation is your own; it would be wonderful for more people in the spotlight to come out as positive gay role models, however, why is everyone repeatedly insisting that if someone doesn’t want to be identified as something they must then be gay?

It seems to further propagate the idea that being homosexual is shameful and the only orientation worth hiding and keeping to yourself. That if you seem ashamed or don’t feel like openly saying ‘Hey I’m straight’ (or god forbid, asexual, bisexual etc), then someone must be gay, because being gay is negative- because homosexuality is worth absolute discretion.

Unless my sexual orientation directly wants to be involved with your sexual orientation, I keep it to myself. Why? Because it’s not worth having the conversation if it doesn’t effect you. Let people assume I’m straight, let people assume I’m gay, let people assume I am a complicated convergence of fetishes with no particular sexual preference other than Often- I don’t care.

The problem here is so many people have backed her into a corner now, particularly the LGBTQ community, ‘Don’t come out? You’re gay. Come out as straight? You’re just hiding it.’ If she’s bisexual, pansexual, asexual or identifies as anything else that she may choose in the privacy of her own bedroom, it’s too late because the world has already doubly outed her.

We often learn that the best way to encourage behavior, negative or positive, is through reinforcement. By punishing someone who is already suffering from the violation of their own privacy by being ‘outed’ by the media, we don’t encourage people to be out and proud of their sexual orientation. We remind them that no matter what you say, no matter what you need or how much you value your own privacy, we will make our own decisions about you- we will only support you on OUR terms. We create a situation that is very ‘Us or them’, ‘Gay or Straight’, ‘For us or against us’, where everybody loses. If you are punished for being outed on both sides, the idea of being in the closet is reinforced.

Regardless of what someone’s sexual orientation is, we should show unconditional support for anyone who knows what it’s like to suffer scrutiny and judgement for their orientation. We should show empathy, particularly in the community, for someone who may not be ready, or may just not care enough, to confirm their sexual preference to a host of people it doesn’t effect and who don’t deserve to know. We should recognize the fact that it’s not black and white and any media outlet can change peoples gender at will with nothing more than a rumor (I mean, remember when Insert-Famous-Person-Here was gay like two years ago?). How can we expect or ever hope for more people in the spotlight to ever entrust the public with something private without empathy and support? Being outed sucks, but being outed without anyone’s support of your own right to privacy from any community? That’s even worse.

(via mach712)

‘accidentally’

ok look i sat on my bike and she stood next to me. i was about to fall and needed something to hold on to in order to not fall and apparently her boobs were the closest or something idk

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i accidentally grabbed my friends boobs tonight, accidentally, and like we aren’t that close and i just, i ddon’t know i just what

friends called so we played volleyball with their younger siblings, their siblings friends and my friends other friend and it was grr888 but it was so so so cold and i already have a bad cold and i kind of almost broke my friends vespa